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Posted: 7/29/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

I have never seen or met my birth mother. This information has been withheld from me since birth and is a constant void in my life. I grew up in a very strict household and though I was grateful to my parents for the life they had given me, I was never satisfied with their answers to my questions. I am 50 years old, but still worry that the decisions I make will disappoint my father.

Nevertheless, I decided that the time had come to search for my biological family. All I knew was that I was born in 1959 in Tuskegee, Alabama to Mary Louise Davis, who was a 24-year-old African American woman born somewhere in Alabama. My original birth certificate says that I have an older brother, who was a toddler when I was born.

I contacted Search Quest America with this information and my case was assigned to Julie Jones. She was wonderful! She got to work right away, contacting Tuskegee University to find out if my birth mother had ever been a student there. She even contacted my father, who is in his seventies, to find out if he remembered any other details about my adoption. He recalled that my birth mother was born and raised in Tuskegee, but never went to the University. She gave me up for adoption because she had no vocational training, no job, no education, and no hope to care for a second child. He also remembered that her son's last name was also Davis, that her father was a farmer, and that she eventually moved to Connecticut. When Julie told me she had extracted all this information from him, I was shocked! She put all these pieces together and found my birth mother after just two months. She is alive and well at 73.

Julie also offered me helpful advice about how to make contact with my birth family for the first time. Since we had no way of knowing my birth mother's medical/mental condition or whether or not she would be receptive to meeting me, Julie contacted my older brother Bobbie instead. He confirmed that his mom had given a baby girl up for adoption, and all of the pieces of the puzzle fit into place perfectly. He couldn't wait to talk to me, and he agreed to break the news to our mom. When he talked to Mary for the first time, she was hesitant to make contact with me. My father has always been an intimidating man and even after all these years, she is afraid of my him. I decided that after waiting 50 years, I can afford to take the reunion slow and go at the pace that is comfortable for her.

My first conversation with my half brother was incredible! I always knew I had a brother out there somewhere, and I have been dying to find out if we have anything in common or whether we look alike. How can I even describe what it feels like to finally hear his voice and solve the mystery behind my birth and adoption? We are planning to get together for the first time in August and I can't wait! I truly feel like a lifetime of prayers have been answered all at once and I feel blessed to be able to meet my birth family. I know that not every story turns out this way.

Thank you so much for all your help and assistance. Search Quest America is awesome and genuine. Again, thank you! God Bless, Paula.

(Written by Mica Burton on Paula's behalf.)

Client ID# 244000
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