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Posted: 2/17/2010
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

My name is Michelle and I am writing today to thank Search Quest America for the role you have played in reuniting my fiance Jason with his birth father. So much has happened in the past 2 months that I don't even know where to start! But I will do my best to tell our story.

I first contacted Search Quest America on December 15, 2009. Jason and I had just been talking about Christmas and how much more fun the holidays would be when we had our own kids one day. I jokingly suggested we get started on that, but instead of playing along, Jason went quiet. When I probed him about what he was feeling, he put his head in his hands and said "it's hard to start my own family when a piece of me is missing. How can I be a father when I don't even know my own dad?" I was taken aback by the emotion in his face--Jason never talked about his father and even with how close we are, I honestly didn't know that it was such a deep wound for him.

Jason was born in Blue Island, Illinois in March of 1985. He was a fighter from the very beginning. When he was born with health problems and the doctors needed his father's medical history to make a diagnosis, Jason's mother contacted his birth father, a man named Stan. He had no idea she was pregnant and I gather it was only a brief relationship. By the time she caught up with him, Jason was 3 months old and Stan was married and living out of state. We don't know the details of that phone call, but we gather it was not a pleasant conversation. Jason's mother never speaks about it, or anything about Jason's father for that matter.

I approached her for information, but as soon as she found out I planned to help Jason find his birth father, she clammed up and made it clear that she did not approve and would not help us. Jason expected that reaction, but I don't understand how she could deny Jason the right to know his birth father, and know himself.

I contacted SQA on a Tuesday afternoon. I paid for the search myself and the case was assigned to Julie Jones. One of the first questions she asked was if Jason wanted to make the phone call himself or if he wanted Julie to call for him. He preferred to let Julie handle it, and I know it was because deep down Jason worried that since his father knew about him and hasn't tried to find him, he may not want to reunite with him. I did my best to reassure him, but in the back of my mind I hoped that this situation would not blow up in my face.

On February 1st, Julie called to tell us that she had found Jason's birth father. She left several messages trying to get a hold of him, but for whatever reason, he never returned her call. To Jason, it seemed like a confirmation of his worst fears. Julie encouraged us to write him a letter and include photographs of Jason growing up and as an adult. We talked about it together, and a few days later we mailed the letter with restricted delivery since it was intended for his eyes only.

Two days later, we got a call from Julie. Stan finally called her back and she said he had the "deer in the headlights" tone of voice. He denied ever knowing Jason's mother and said sorry, but he wasn't Jason's father. He did promise to call back if he could "shake any memories loose." But it was clear that we were at an impasse.

That night we talked to Jason's mom and to say that it did not go well would be an understatement. She instantly got very angry with us and began yelling at us. She said that Stan does know who she is. She thought that we are insinuating that she lied to us about something. We tried to explain to her that he might have been in front of his wife and just didn't want to say anything, but she wouldn't let us get a word in edgewise. Finally, she kicked us out of her house--a first for Jason. We had no idea what to think. She asked us if we were sure that we had the right Stan, but it has to be him based off of the information that she gave me. So unless the information that she gave me was incorrect there is no way that it could be the wrong guy. The fact that she got so angry and defensive right away makes me wonder if she did lie about something.

Jason and I went home that night emotionally exhausted. We decided it was a lost cause and tried to convince ourselves that we had done our part and the rest was up to Stan. We honestly weren't expecting anything good to come of it. We wrote Julie a long thank-you note for all her had work and asked her to let us know if Stan every called her again. As far as we were concerned, the case was closed.

We were completely surprised when Julie called two weeks ago. Stan did call! He said he talked to his wife about it and she remembered when Lori called when Jason was 3 months old. Stan said he wanted to do the right thing and offered to take a paternity test. He said if the results were positive, he wanted to be a part of Jason's life and let him get to know his half-siblings!! We could not have been happier.

Jason and Stan worked with DNA Diagnostics, who confirmed that Stan IS Jason's father--case closed. I am still reeling with everything that has happened. I can't believe Stan called back. I am so happy for Jason. This means so much to him and that means the world to me. Thank you AGAIN for everything that you have done for Jason. A new chapter in his life is about to open and none of it would be happening without your hard work and dedication to your job. You are a wonderful company and we greatly appreciate you! Thank you!

(Written by Mica Burton on Michelle's behalf.)

Client ID# 264234
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