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Posted: 2/20/2010
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

My name is Clara and my reunion story is years in the making. It has been a hard, tearful journey but I am relieved to say that my case has finally been solved. This is my story.

One September 1st, 1978 I gave birth to a baby girl in Rupert Idaho. I was 13 years old. The State of Idaho Department of Health and Welfare made me feel like I had no rights in the matter. I had to give the baby up. I know now that it was the best thing to do. A 13 year old can't take care of themselves let alone a baby. I have thought about her everyday ever since. A part of me has always been missing.

In March of 2000 I received a response from an adoption registry via e-mail from a girl named Clarice. She said she didn't know a lot about her adoption, but she did know that she was born in Rupert, Idaho on September 1st, 1978. We e-mailed back and forth for quite a few months and we both believed that we were mother and daughter. I told her of my situation at the time of her birth. She said she had no hard feelings towards me and that she wanted to meet me. She even told me that she loved me, and we started a relationship through e-mail. If I remember correctly the last e-mail I received from her was on Mother's Day that year. She told me happy Mother's day and that she loved me. I have not heard from her since. I have still been searching the adoption registries and message boards whenever I get the chance.

One of the e-mails she sent me, she told me that she lived in Riverside, California until she was 14 and her and her family moved to Glendale Arizona where she went to high school and eventually went to the university of Arizona to become a school teacher. She had a younger brother named Jason. I still have every e-mail that she sent to me. I just need to know if she is ok. Was this girl even my daughter? Did she change her mind about meeting me or was she part of some sort of fraud? I don't understand. I guess now I need some questions answered. It was just so very strange how it just come to a complete stop overnight. From our relationship I gained so much comfort and understanding and closure, and all of those things have been ripped away from me overnight. The hole in my heart seems bigger now than it has ever been.

I contacted Search Quest America a few months ago and my case was assigned to Julie Jones. From my first interaction with your company, I felt that I could have confidence in your abilities and professionalism. I knew that this time, I would not be taken advantage of.

Julie walked me through the process of requesting the non-identifying information for the couple who adopted my baby. They were from Canyon County Idaho, and none of the facts matched the information Clarice provided. I had a sinking feeling in my stomach, and my worst fears were confirmed when Julie did some research and found out that the email address she had used was fraudulent. All of the hopes, dreams, tears, and laughs I shared with Clarice were a fraud! To say I felt like a fool would be an understatement. I had to wonder if I was a fool for trying again--how could I open my heart and trust that this time, when Julie solved the case, it would be a true reunion?

I only had about a month to prepare myself. Julie called me out of the blue to let me know that my daughter's name is Tyanne. She is a beautiful young woman with 2 daughters and she is happily married. I stewed on the information for a few days and then decided to write her a letter. I wrote:

"Hi, my name is Clara, and I am your birth-mother. I can't believe we have finally found you. I have thought about you every day for the last 31 years. Every holiday, every birthday, I would imagine what you were doing, and if you were happy, and with a good family. I would picture you in my mind and imagine what you look like. I always wondered if you knew you were adopted, and if you ever thought about me. I wondered if you hated me for giving you up.

Since the day I gave you up for adoption, I have had a big hole in my heart, and a piece of me has been missing. I dream of one day being able to meet you, and getting to know you. I wish I could hold you and hug you, if only for a brief moment.

I in no way want to disrupt your life, or cause any pain or problems. I just want you to know that I love you. I hope one day you will want to contact me, and we could possibly have some kind of relationship.

You have a full brother, and a sister that would love to meet you, and get to know you also. I'm sure you have a lot of questions. Hopefully I can answer those for you one day. I just want you to know that even though I don't know you, I love you with all my heart. I will leave my contact information with you. I hope to hear from you soon. Please take care, Clara."

Julie mailed the letter along with a cover letter explaining that SQA is a professional company that was hired to find Tyanne. I steeled myself for her response, expecting the worst and hoping for the best. I was not disappointed. Tyanna called me about three weeks later and we have had a wonderful relationship ever since. She came here to Burley once, and I have been to her home. We spent New Year's eve and New Year's day together. It was wonderful. We talk to each other every day, either on the phone, texting, or chatting on the computer.

I am so happy. She is a beautiful young woman and I could not be more proud. Finally, I feel validated in my decision to give her up for adoption. I can't thank you all enough for helping me solve this mystery and for showing me that even my story can have a happy ending. Thank you so much for everything! Sincerely, Clara.

(Written by Mica Burton on Clara's behalf.)

Client ID# 241269
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