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Posted: 9/28/2011
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

No one likes to see someone they love in pain or suffering from an illness. When it's a child, it can be especially difficult. Three years ago, my daughter Kathy was diagnosed with some serious medical issues that appear to be hereditary. The doctors requested a detailed medical history, and unfortunately we were only able to supply half of it. Her father has not been a part of her life for many years. He left us both when Kathy she was less than a year old. When the doctors emphasized the importance of obtaining the medical history, I knew it was time to find Raymond. First, I contacted all of our mutual friends from years ago, but no one knew where he was. I searched online phone calls and made cold calls, but all of my efforts lead to more frustration. I contacted SQA and initiated the search back in November.



Here's what we knew at the time: His name is Raymond Burquet or Burgett, and if he's still alive he would be 68-70 years old today. He had been previously married to a woman named Carol, and he had two small children with her. His children would be 46-50 years old today. When I met him he worked for a national plastics company. That was 45 years ago and we lived in Raytown, Missouri at the time. I did not have his social security number or his birth date. He used to hang around with his friends named Archie Donahue and Troy Robbins. Troy was a union rep and the three of them used to go out drinking after work. In 1970, I bumped into him randomly at a grocery store in Independence, Missouri.



With this information, my researcher Julie Jones was somehow able to narrow down the list of men by the same age with the same name in the United States and locate the correct Raymond Burgett. He is currently living in Fort Worth, Texas. He is remarried, has several children, and has been working as a semi truck driver for several years. Julie called and left a message for Raymond first. Next, she contacted Kathy's half-brother, Scott.



Scott was not surprised to hear from Julie. He knew his father had several children he had not met. He was able to confirm all the facts we knew about Raymond, and it was clear that at last, we had located Kathy's father. Kathy has since spoken with her father, Scott, and her half-sister Karen. It has been a bittersweet reunion for her. She was able to get the medical information she needed and she has loved getting to know Scott and Karen.



However, Raymond has not expressed much interest in being an active part of her life, or any regret for his absence from our lives. Scott tells us that he has been a fairly distant father throughout the years, so Kathy is trying to count her blessings and set aside her negative feelings about him. She is also trying to work with her doctors to determine the cause of her health problems, and things are looking very hopeful.



I would like to thank you for your help in finding Kathy's father and his children. We have met with the daughter in person and everything went well. We are planning to meet the son at Christmas time. There were definitely ups and downs to this reunion, but as Kathy says "It's worth it anyway. At least now I know where half of my DNA comes from, and I have two new best friends who also happen to be my siblings. What do I really have to complain about?"



Written by Mica Burton on Sue's behalf.



Client ID#256193

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