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Posted: 10/31/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

My mother used to say that a family is the most important thing in life, and the most delicate. She used to use all kinds of analogies, comparing the family to breakable things like glass or eggs or dishes. One thing she never talked about was how to put a family back together again after it is broken. My family split over a decade ago after a serious falling out. Until recently, I hadn't seen my mother in 12 years and didn't even know if she was alive or dead. My heart was broken, my family was broken, and I tried to convince myself that I could be a happy, productive person without them. Recently I realized that the only person I was hurting by maintaining that wall of silence was myself. There's nothing to be gained from harboring hatred, and you can't find peace until you give forgiveness and receive it in return.

My mother was relatively easy to find because she has lived in the same place nearly her entire life. However my brother Michael James proved to be a much more difficult challenge. 12 years ago he dealt with our family's challenges in a different way--by finding approval and friendship on the streets. That led to a life of misdemeanors, felonies, and drugs. My mother hasn't seen her son in 9 years and doesn't know whether he is alive or dead, leading a happy life settled down with his family or rotting in a prison cell somewhere. There is a part of me, however small, that doesn't want to know. But after all this time, I think I am ready to see my brother again and put the past behind me.

Search Quest America was just the team I needed to bring my search to an end. Julie Jones was my researcher. All I have to say is that her skills are exceptional and she solved my case in record time. She found my brother living in Jacksonville, Florida. He has a lengthy criminal record, mostly misdemeanors, but he served his time and recently put his life back on track. He even has a family of his own. Julie called to tell me she had found him on a Thursday. She asked me if I wanted to call him myself, but I was too nervous, so she agreed to break the ice for me. Michael called me a few days later and we have talked every day since. I honestly don't know if we will ever get to be best friends, however. There are so many things that have happened in the past to leave deep scars for both of us. But I couldn't let another day pass without doing my part to make amends. I am grateful that I had the opportunity to put my brother and my mom back in touch. I watched her weep tears of joy when she spoke with him again for the first time. That makes it all worth it. Thanks for your help!

(Written by Mica Burton on Stacy's behalf.)

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