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Posted: 10/21/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

In 1991 I found myself in a position I never expected to be in--caught between staying with the man I loved and protecting my unborn child. I loved Mylo, or thought I did, but I knew that his lifestyle would eventually prove hazardous to not only his health and well-being, but my own and that of the son I carried. So one morning I kissed him goodbye for the day and then I gathered all of my things in a suitcase and set out on a personal journey of self-discovery and preparation for the child I carried. I left him in Montana and moved to Wyoming, where I gave birth to a healthy baby boy and named him Thomas, after my grandfather. I often wondered how he took the news when he came home after work that day, but I tried to focus on moving forward and making a new start. I eventually remarried and had other children, and as Thomas grew up he began to ask about his real father. He could recognize that he doesn't look like his siblings, and the more I tried to steer him away from his curiosity and squelch his questions, the more he got after me to answer them. Finally, when he was about 12 years old, I told him to drop the subject once and for all, and if he still wanted to know when he was 18 years old, I would tell him everything. That was like putting a band-aid on an infected cut. It temporarily put off my awkwardness, but it did not make him forget about it as I had hoped it would.

About a month ago Thomas turned 18 and came to me asking hard questions about his father and his heritage. I don't know the answers to his questions--all I know is that Mylo was headed down the wrong path and I wanted to spare both of us the heartache of going with him. That isn't enough for Thomas. He wants to know the whole truth. He wants to know who his father is today and whether or not he has half brothers and sisters. And I suppose the time has come that I need to answer those questions for him.

I decided that the best way to find answers for Thomas is by hiring Search Quest America to locate Mylo. My case was assigned to Julie Jones, who solved it in less than 30 days. As she tracked down one clue after another, she ran into individuals who warned us to stay away. One of Mylo's old drinking buddies told Julie, "he's a rough character with a checkered past and maybe its best not to find him." Even this report did not change Thomas' mind, so we persisted. Julie eventually found him working as a ranch hand in Buffalo, Montana. He recently got out of jail for assault during a bar fight, and didn't have a valid phone number or other means of contacting him. Julie put me in touch with Mylo's ex-wife Cheryl, who put us in touch with Mylo for the first time.

We are planning to meet him in person at the end of November and I am grateful to give Thomas the opportunity to meet his father and ask him all the questions he has stored away in the back of his mind. I have finally come to the realization that I cannot keep the two of them apart, and even if I could, it wouldn't be worth the resentment Thomas would eventually harbor towards me. I am not sure how the whole story will play out, but I am thankful that we searched and thankful to Search Quest America for making Thomas' reunion possible. Thomas cant wait to met his half siblings and I am anxious to see how everything turns out. Even if everything blows up in my face, I am happy I kept my promise to my son.

(Written by Mica Burton on Suzzet's behalf.)

Client ID# 249842
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