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Posted: 12/9/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

I have raised 4 strong, intelligent sons. From time to time as I catch a grin for some goal reached or see them scowl when I ask them to do their chores, I wonder about their half-brother, whom I gave up for adoption when I was only 16 years old. I met a young man at school in Austin, Texas and one of the attributes that drew me to him was the fact that our parents forbade our relationship. We were raised to be proper young adults and our parents never dreamed that I would get pregnant at 16. When they found out, they did what every self-respecting upper class family would do; they lied about it. I was sent to a home for unwed mothers and gave birth in June of 1969. I was forced to give my son up for adoption; they said it was the only way out and I believed them. All they told me about the adoptive family was that they already had one adopted child, a little girl who was 2 years old at the time. They lived on the East coast and I was told they would take good care of him. In the nearly 40 years that have followed I have lied to myself and tried to pretend that I dont need to know what happened to my baby. I lied to my sons and never told them they had a brother. It has been a well-kept family secret. That is, until now.

I have finally come to a point in my life where I can look back at my past with frankness and honesty. I can admit that I made mistakes and that in many ways I was a victim as well. I can make a conscious choice to stop punishing myself for circumstances that are beyond my control. I can sit down and have an adult conversation with my sons and let them know that somewhere in the world they have a brother.

Surprisingly, they took it very well. In fact, they are the reason I decided to take the plunge and search for my son. Rather than judging my past or calling me a hypocrite for the morals I tried to instill in them, they simply moved forward ready to welcome a new member of the family. I had been quietly doing research on the internet over the past several months and decided that if anyone could find my son, it would be SSearch Quest America. My cases was assigned to Linda Strength, who contacted me right away to verify my information and get started on the case.

My first phone call with Linda was on the seventh day of November, and she called me on the 1st of December to tell me she had found my son. I was prepared to wait months, perhaps even a year for the results of the search, so I was shocked to receive an answer so quickly. I instructed Linda to make first contact, and it felt like I was walking on eggshells waiting for her to report back. I was thrilled when she called to report that Adam's sons name is Adam!! He is excited to meet me and his half brothers. Words cannot describe the joy in my heart and the peace I have found since learning that Adam is healthy, happy, educated, and successful. I know now that I made the right choice for him as well as for myself, and I am grateful that he will let me into his life to share his successes and triumphs. Thanks so much to Linda and SQA for solving the case so quickly! I could never have done it without you. May you continue to bless the lives of many others as you have blessed mine!

(Written by Mica Burton on Marys behalf.)

Client ID# 228847
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