I Want to Know My Mother

Posted: 10/17/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

I have never known anything about my mother, except what I was told by other people. I want to see who she really is, what she looks like, and I want to ask her some mother and daughter questions for myself. The decision to search for my mother is a very difficult one. My father tells me to leave it alone and that she is bad news. He says that finding her will only bring me heartbreak. My boyfriend doesn't support my search--he thinks that the woman who abandoned me as a child doesn't deserve to know me now. But what about what I deserve? My dream is to have my mother at my wedding. Besides, doesn't she deserve the chance to tell me her side of the story? I understand that things might blow up in my face, but I believe everyone deserves a second chance.

I contacted Search Quest America in May and at first, I kept it a secret. I didn't want my dad to dissaprove. As it turned out, his input was the key that unlocked the mystery. My case was assigned to Julie Jones, and for 5 months, Julie plugged along trying to solve the case piece by piece. She found one woman after another who fit the profile--all born in July in the right year and right place, but each lead turned out to be a dead end. Finally, in October, I gave Julie permission to speak with my father. He remembered my grandmother's name, and that piece of information allowed Julie to narrow the list down and find my mother. She asked me if I wanted to make the phone call myself, but I was too nervous to pick up the phone.

Words can't express how I felt when Julie called to tell me that my mother was overjoyed to meet me. She has been searching for me for years, and has always ached at the thought that I might harbor hard feelings or blame myself for the falling out between her and my father. We bawled together the first time we spoke about a week ago. It was my pleasure to tell her about my fiance and the life I have made for myself. I felt a little shy when I invited her to my wedding, but she accepted my invitation with gusto and I can't wait to meet her. I know I am a grown woman, but I feel like a little girl! We have a lot of catching up to do, and I can't wait to get started. Thank you Search Quest America for making my dream come true!

(Written by Mica Burton on Rosa's behalf.)

Client ID# 236829