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Posted: 3/14/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

/images/stories.asp?i=20110523133844.0.jpgLike many adoptees, Molly had a good upbringing, but always wondered about her biological family. She wondered what the circumstances were behind her adoption, wondered if her birth family was still alive or if she had any siblings. She would pass complete strangers on the street and wonder if perhaps one of them was a family member. When she broached the subject of finding her birth family, her adoptive father was less than supportive. Out of respect, Molly honored his wishes.

In September of 2008, Molly contacted Search Quest America. She wrote the following:

"Long story short... I have been wondering about my real birth mother, but was hesitant until now to look. My adoptive parents were very hurt every time I brought it up. My mom died in 1982, and my dad passed away last summer. I now feel like I can look without the guilt of hurting my parents. Please help me. I have more information from the adoption agency as well, and at one time had gotten my real birth certificate from the state of Oregon. I cannot locate it now, but remember my birth mothers first name, and I have reason to believe she is not from or in Oregon. She would be 68-69 years old, if still alive."

Because Molly was willing to work in partnership with SQA's research team, she was a perfect candidate for the Guided Professional Search. She was fortunate to have been born in Oregon, where adoptees have access to their original birth certificates. She worked in partnership with SQA's head researcher Susan, and was guided through the process of contacting the adoption agency and obtain her non-identifying information. Next, Susan helped her request the original birth certificate, which confirmed her birth mother's name.

From start to finish, Mollys case was solved in 3 months. Sadly, although Molly hoped to meet her birth mother face to face, she passed away just months before. Her search was not in vain, however. Susan found Molly's five half-siblings who were able to provide her with the answers she was seeking. In her own words, she writes the following:

"Susan, this past week has been a blur since you put me in contact with my family. I will be meeting two of my sisters next Thursday in Portland, and have been in contact with the other two and an aunt. They have sent me many pictures, family information, and even some emails my birth mother shared with her sister before she died.

"You know, even though we never met, my mom and I have several things in common. A love of gardening and the outdoors, needlepoint, and music to name a few. She was a choir director and so was I. And the resemblance is something else. When I met 3 of my sisters last year, it was a shock at first because they were still grieving her passing last March. Glendi told me that my coming into their lives was like getting a piece of mom back.

"I cannot describe how I feel inside, and am very grateful to you. Attached is a picture of me, and a picture of my birth mother. We walk the same, we talk the same, we look alike. I'm the spitting image of our mother. My sisters are amazed and say that I look more like her than any of them. Again, thank you and God bless you (and all of you there) for making this possible for me and others like me.

"After talking with my sister, we are all more than pleased to share our story in the hopes it helps other people gain the courage to look for lost loved ones. God bless you and your organization for all that you do. Sincerely, Molly."

Molly's dedication and persistence were key factors in the success of her search. Although she wishes she had searched earlier so that she could have met her mother, she is grateful to have her half-siblings in her life and finally have the answers she always searched for. She recognizes that all things happen for a reason.

She is an inspiration to other adoptees everywhere, and says simply, "don't give up and don't be afraid. It was worth every penny."

(Written by Mica Burton on Molly's behalf.)
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