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Posted: 4/3/2010
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

My name is Kayleen and I promised my mom before she died that I would try to find my cousin. My mom looked for years, but she has been gone now 12 years. I want to full fill my mother's wishes but also meet the cousin I have never known.

My cousin's name is Carol Jean and today she would be 64 years old. She also has a sister named Sharon that we would like to find. She was last seen in Texas in the Pecos County area. She has a younger brother named Richard Lee and her parents' names were William Russell and Dorothy Lavina. Her father was in the army, stationed near Del Rio Ft. Stockton when she was born. Her mother worked on the base. I also know that her father was born in 1915 and died somewhere in Kansas around 1975. William was my mother's brother, and they were very close throughout their lives. Carol, my cousin, was estranged from the family in her young adulthood, and she was not reconciled with them before her father passed away. My mother promised Carol's father before he died that she would find Carol and let her know how much her father loved her. When my mother passed away, that promise transferred to me, and I have been searching for 12 years to keep that promise.

I contacted Search Quest America to help make it happen. I worked hand in hand with a researcher by the name of Julie Jones. Julie was awesome to work with--funny, down to earth, and incredibly skilled at the same time.
It only took about 30 days start to finish to solve the case. First, Julie found Carol's brother, Richard through his criminal record. He was arrested in 2007 and currently in Arizona State Prison on 4 counts of child abuse. That was sobering information, but it also led Julie to find Carol's current whereabouts. Carol and her sister Sharon both live in Phoenix today. Their phone numbers have been disconnected, but Julie contacted Sharon's ex-husband. He was not particularly helpful, to say the least. He promised to pass Julie's contact info on to Sharon and Carol, and we waited weeks to hear from them. Julie called back a second time, more forceful. He said he had emailed both Sharon and Carol, and they didn't seem especially interested in talking to me, though he said he would try again. We never heard from them.

Julie and I discussed the situation and decided it was best to try sending a letter instead. I wrote the letter to Ed, included a letter for Carol and Sharon in separate, unsealed envelopes with postage and her return address for Ed to forward on. I also copied the kids' baby photos so they would know I am legit. One of the things Ed mentioned to Julie is that Carol and Sharon do not know anything about their father's side of the family, so they probably don't really understand why I wants to get into contact with them. Julie followed up and gave Ed my contact information, and right now we are just waiting to find out what will happen.

One of the things Julie said to me when we started the search is that she could find my cousin, but may not be able to wave a magic wand and make it all turn out the way I wanted it to. I pondered on that reality as I wrote my letter. To be honest, the main reason I decided to pursue this search was out of loyalty and respect for my mother. Now that I have honored her wishes I feel like I can put her to rest, and actually meeting Carol and Sharon does not matter as much as I thought it would. I know that somewhere my mom is pleased with my efforts, and I am content to sit back and wait to see what will happen. Julie and SQA, Thanks so much! You have been wonderful and I owe you many thanks for helping me fulfill my mother's last request. Love, Kayleen

(Written by Mica Burton on Kayleen's behalf.)

Client ID# 262791
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