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Posted: 10/7/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

My baby saved my life, and I saved hers. I was only 17 when I got pregnant. I lived in Evanston, Illinois and after my relationship with the her father ended, I found myself uneducated, penniless, and ashamed. Like every woman in my shoes, I had an impossible choice to make. I chose to give her life, and then give her a chance at a better life than I had. I promised myself that I before I ever brought another child into the world, I would set my own affairs in order so that I would be the best mother a child could ask for. I set better priorities, went back to school, and settled into a career that I loved. Eventually I married and raised a beautiful family, which I adore. I still think about the baby I gave up, and every year on her birthday I weep for lost chances and broken promises. All I want to know is if she has had a happy life. Was she treated well, nurtured, and comforted the way a child should be? Has she grown up to be a strong, confident woman? When she thinks about me, the woman who gave her life, does her heart fill with anger and regret, or gratitude? With the encouragement of my husband and family, I contacted Search Quest America in search of these answers, and with the hope that she might also give me the opportunity to be a part of her life.

That was only in July of this year, and my head is still spinning from all that has transpired since. Susan Friel-Williams, SQA's CEO and lead investigator, took my case. The first day of the search, Susan discovered that there were only two children born in Evanston the day I gave birth--one boy and one girl. Records confirmed that the baby girl was given up for adoption, and Susan discovered that her name today is Maresa and she was adopted by a family living in Long Beach, New York. From there, my case was solved so quickly that it took my breath away! Susan asked me to contact the adoption agency to confirm the date of birth, which I did. They would not give me any other information, but their confirmation of the birth date confirmed that Susan had indeed found the correct adoptee, living in New York. I held my breath as Susan contacted her for the first time, telling myself to be cautious and not get my hopes up too high.

When Susan spoke with her for the first time she was guardedly optimistic. She had tried searching for me several years prior, but had given up because she lacked the resources and expertise to find me. She filed a release of information with the adoption agency, but for one reason or another, the Agency failed to notify me of that fact, even though I contacted them several times.

Our first conversation was unforgettable! We cried together as I explained the circumstances of her birth and that I have loved her since the day I found out I was pregnant. I found peace as she told me about the family that raised her. She had the life I hoped for through the years, and both of us are whole now that we have found the other. Thank you Search Quest America for making this dream come true for both of us! We could not have done it without you!

(Written by Mica Burton on Ruth's behalf.)

Client ID# 237426
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