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Posted: 11/7/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

After thirty-eight years, I learned that the person I believed to be my father was not. That was in 2003. My mother was not very cooperative in providing any information for over two years. Then, in 2005, surprisingly she gave me the name of a Clyde T. Budge whom she says she met while in the military at Ft. Mead, Maryland. They parted ways the fall before my birth, and she went on to marry James Jenkins, the man who raised me. She was stationed in Germany when she learned she was pregnant, but for the sake of her marriage she pretended the baby was his. She wrote to my father, told him she was married and that she never wanted to see him againshe did not even mention she was having his baby. She never would have told me the truth if it James hadnt requested a DNA test.

Now I am left to wonder how my life would have been different if I had been raised with my biological father in my life. I set out on a search to find him and one day I found the phone number for a Frederick Budge living in Reynoldsburg, Ohio whom I believe to be his brother. I contacted him and he gave me the impression that the two of them were estranged because they did not keep in touch. Or maybe all of this was too much to take, and he was just protecting his brother. I know it sounds strange, but I do not want anything from himI just want know where I come from. No, I need to know who I am! This is more than a mid-life crisis, I have to find out where I come from so I can make sense of where I'm going. I feel like my whole life was a lie, and I prefer the truth no matter how painful.

I contacted Search Quest America to find answers. My case was assigned to Julie Jones and in only 30 days she had the answers I was searching for. She tracked down my father's brother, and even his neighbors. She finally got in touch with a neighbor named Jesse in Orlando. She is still in touch with my father Clyde, who goes by Tom and lives in Orlando with his wife Christy. She took all the info and agreed to pass a message along to him.

Julie tells me that when she finally got in touch with Tom and Christy, they were jumping up and down excited! Tom was thrilled to learn about me and in the weeks that followed, he has introduced me with pride to members of the family. I wouldn't wish this whole ordeal on anyone--it hasn't been pleasant to learn that I was lied to as a child and into adulthood, but at the same time I wouldn't trade this opportunity to know the truth for anything in the world. I am so grateful for Search Quest America for bringing me peace of mind and helping me discover where I come from. Its a great new beginning!

(Written by Mica Burton on Thomas' behalf.)

Client ID# 257887
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