Putting the Pieces Together for Troy

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Posted: 3/31/2010
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

9/1/09--Well I am not sure how to begin. My name is Troy. I have been looking for my dad since I first became aware of him at the age of 14. I don't remember what question I asked or what led to our conversation, but my mom sat me down and explained that the man who raised me was not my biological father. She told me my father's name was Barry. He was in the United States navy based at the Charleston naval weapons station in Charleston, South Carolina. She remembered he was from Hawaii and that his family is from there also. She did not have any solid information about him, just snapshots, like the fact that he owned a convertible MG. He played guitar. He and my mother were dating in 1970. But then he met another woman from Summerville, South Carolina.

After my mother broke up with him, she moved to Columbia and gave birth to me in Prosperity, South Carolina. She never contacted Barry to tell him about me; she just went on with her life and focused on being a good mother to me. I'm grateful to know the truth, but it changed my whole perspective. I just feel that there is a whole other side to my life that I am missing out on. I don't want you to get the impression that my life is bad. I have had a wonderful life, and now I am married to a wonderful woman and have 2 beautiful teenage girls. I am the acting mayor of our small town. Life is good for me. I just don't know who can help me make this side of my life complete.

About a month ago I was talking with a friend who recently used Search Quest America to reunite him with a child he had never met. He recommended that I contact SQA to see what could be done about finding my biological father. I didn't think I had enough information, but after my case was reviewed, it was accepted. Julie Jones was my researcher. I was prepared for the search to take months, but she called me back less than 72 hours later with news.

9/4/09--Julie spoke to Barry and he confirmed that he was in the NAVY, in Summerville, drove an MG, had family in Hawaii, was on a ship in the Naval Weapons Station, had a girl visit from Hawaii, married Jean in Summerville, lived at the Camelot Valley Mobile Home Park and on Bacon Ridge Road, etc., etc. All of the details my mom remembered. Except He said he didn't remember my mother and wanted nothing to do with being reunited. Julie asked for some medical history and other basic information, but he was not willing to say much. She told him to keep her number if he changed his mind. That was it. She called me back the same day to give me the news. She gave me his contact information and explained that the best option was to send him a letter with some pictures and see where it went from there. I told her I would think about it.

10/20/09--I sent him a letter. It was definitely a hard thing to do because by then I had been through every emotion--sadness, pain at being rejected, anger, sorrow, frustration-- finally I challenged him to take a DNA test just to prove that he wasn't my birth father. I waited to hear back, ready to accept the outcome either way.

1/6/10--Barry agreed to take the DNA test. We sent off samples and waited for the results.

3/31/10--The results are in!! It is a match and Barry cannot deny being my father. He is slowly coming around and we're talking about getting together out to meet each other. I am just happy to finally have an answer. It was a hard process, but it will be worth it to meet my father and find out what we have in common after all this time. It might not be a perfect scenario, but it's better than not knowing. Thanks, Julie and SQA, for all your help! You guys sure know how to put the pieces together! Sincerely, Troy

(Written by Mica Burton on Troy's behalf).

Client ID# 236740
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