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Posted: 1/16/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

/images/stories.asp?i=20110523130551.0.gifThe following story was written in Bob's own words:

I'm not sure where to start. For years I have made unsuccessful attempts to locate my birth mother and/or any siblings. I had always been told by my adoptive mother that my birth mother was named Doris Wren and was a beautician from the peninsula, specifically the Palo Alto area. I was also told that my birth mother had been semi-friends with my Aunt and that was how my adoptive parents became aware of "me." I was born in May of 1952 at Stanford University. That information was corroborated by information provided to me by the California Department of Social Services. They reported that: my birth mother was 29 years of age, 5'6" tall, 140 lbs, dark brown hair and brown eyes at my birth. She had two brothers (both deceased), and had been married twice. Her father's occupation was listed as a painting contractor. It also stated that I had siblings that were 10, 9, 7 and 2 at the time of my birth, with the oldest sibling suffering from severe asthma.

Now, with that information, and having been a federal criminal investigator (Senior Special Agent with U.S. Customs), I began my search. Several things in my life interfered with the search and I always seemed to delay or postpone it. However, upon my retirement in 2003, I began again with the assistance of an associate who had also retired and became a private investigator. That search was unsuccessful.

Again things began to interfere with my endeavor and my search was tabled. When my adoptive mother passed away in May of 2005, and with the onset of a couple medical symptoms and subsequent tests for medical reasons, my search resumed. Since by Law, my actual birth certificate is sealed, I decided to hire an investigator rather than petition the court. That process can be costly and painstaking, and may or may not be successful.

I provided the agency with the information I had and was assigned an investigator. Just as in my field of investigation where we had agents that specialized in certain areas, Susan Friel-Williams is a specialist in family search for "California" as well as other states.

Her preliminary search revealed that my birth mother's maiden name was "Kinser" and that she had given birth in 1950 to a girl named "Susan." Susan also confirmed that Doris Wrens/Kinser had two brothers previously deceased. She then located marriage records showing that Doris remarried after my birth and had the a new last name. It appeared that there was an additional sibling born in 1955. Mrs. Friel-Williams was as positive as she could be that this was my birth mother. All the information she had located on this Doris Kinser matched the information provided by to me by the California Department of Social Services.

Susan discussed the information with me, and I decided to proceed with the search. Within a few days we had identified and located my sister Joan. The rest is "recent" history. Having been, at one time, a federal agent who had to take facts before federal judges and swear to their accuracy and provide my conclusions based on those facts, I can say that the facts set forth in this search were overwhelming showing that Joan and I had the same birth mother. We then located my sister Susan living 20 minutes away from me, and we are very glad that we found each other and live close enough to visit.

I was raised as an only child and never had the benefit of experiencing a sibling. I must tell you that I have known that I had siblings for many years I just did not know who. I was not sure how I would feel when found my birth family, but I can tell you from my end I feel like a blind person who just regained their sight. This whole reunion process has been amazing.

Thank you Susan for helping me find my answers, and for your support throughout.

Bob
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