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Posted: 7/25/2009
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

What made me decide to search for my birth family? I could write a dissertation on this subject as I have done for the last 20 years in my mind. What it all boils down to is a question of "Where did I come from?" Also there are some medical issues that I want to see about but apparently, that is not a good enough reason for the judge in Cameron County, Texas to unseal the records.

I was born in July of 1970 in San Antonio, Texas. My birth mother, Nancy, was only 16 when she put me up for adoption through Buckner Baptist. Back in 1990, I hired the agency to find her. At that time she was living in Corpus Christi, but she told the agent that she wasn't in a position to reunite with me at that time. The agent did not give me copies of the information they found, but they told me that Nancy got married quickly after I was born and had several children with her husband. When Buckner met with her back then, she was taking care of one of the grandbabies because one of my half brothers was in jail. Obviously it wasn't the outcome I was hoping for, but I never gave up hope that one day we would be reunited.

Today, nearly twenty years later, I finally have all the information I was looking for. I hired Search Quest America to find her again. Julie talked me through the process of applying for my non-identifying information. After two months of searching, she located Nancy living in Odessa, Texas. She gave me information about Nancy's history, including her criminal background, and painted a picture about the lifestyle Nancy and her children are leading. I can't deny that at first it put me off to find out that Nancy herself has a criminal record. No one imagines their birth mother being in jail, and when I got the news I needed some time to figure out how to proceed. It has been a month since Julie first gave me the news, and I think I am ready for Julie to contact her.

I have a lot of questions. What situation led her to put me up for adoption? Who is my birth father and what is his situation/lifestyle today? What medical issues should I watch out for? Has she told her family about my birth and does she want to meet me? I am so grateful that I have Julie who will make the contact for me and be able to get this information. Even if she isn't willing to meet me, I'll at least have the answers I need for my family. If she hasn't told her family or for some reason doesn't want to relive the past, I am prepared to walk away and put it to rest. If she is willing to reunite with me, then I'll keep in touch with her for the rest of my life. I'm still a little leery but I'm willing to proceed with caution.

I really made the right choice when I contacted Search Quest America. I have always felt like they were on my side one hundred percent, and Julie has been my guide through the whole process. I couldn't have done it alone, and it has been so nice to know that with SQA I don't have to. I'm still not sure how my story will turn out, but I am finally ready to open a new chapter.

(Written by Mica Burton on Artie's behalf).

Client ID# 227401
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