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Posted: 2/27/2010
Note: Names, Identifying informaiton and details may have been altered to protect personal identities.

My name is Cindy and I am writing this today to thank Search Quest America for finding my birth father's family and helping me find answers to my questions about where I come from. It's hard to look back and think about the uncertainty and fear I faced before I had the answers to my questions. This is my story.

Last August, I wrote this email to SQA: "I found my birth mother over 20 years ago and within the last few years I have been trying to locate my birth father. The only problem is that my birth mother is not being cooperative with me at all. I have tried to locate him on my own but have hit a dead end at every turn. I don't know how much of the information that my birth mother has given me is accurate or if it is true. Nobody in the family every met him so I can't ask any of them about him. I was told that he only saw me once after I was born and then he just walked out on me and my birth mother.

I just want to know why he walked out on me when I was born and if he has other children as well. Another reason I am trying to find him is because I have Epilepsy and my daughter also had Epilepsy up until it took her life almost seven years ago. She was only 12 years old. I need to find out about his family's medical history and see if Epilepsy runs in his family because I know it is not in my birth mom's family tree. Pretty much all I know is his name which is Ray Clark and the name he used in Kansas City which is "Carp". I have also been told that he has a brother named Everett. I know that he used to ride a Triumph motorcycle and supposedly also rode with an outlaw motorcycle club called "El Forastero" in Kansas City in the early 60's. Also, I have been told that his mother lived in Marceline, Missouri. How much of what I know is the truth I can't be sure because my birth mother has been very reluctant in giving me the information I have asked for about him over the years. All I can do is try to see if you can locate him for me, that way I can find out the answers that I would like to have and possibly get to know him and be a part of his life.

I guess the reason I am trying so hard after all these years to locate him is because I am 41 and I feel that I have a right to know the truth behind him walking out on me and my birth mother. Every time I think I am getting close I hit a dead end. Is it really possible to find someone with so little information? I have read through your success stories and I cry when I read about the positive things that you do for people by helping them find their loved ones. I hope that you can help me get some answers."

I wrote that email in August, and I was definitely not disappointed! My case was solved by the end of January. I had to put myself out there and write letters and make phone calls, but in the end it was all worth it. My researcher Julie Jones helped me every step of the way until we were able to track down my birth father's family. He away several years ago, but we were able to find my half-brother, J.R., who still lives in Missouri today. We have spoken over the phone and corresponded via email several times and I am getting to know the family that way. I also have a half-sister Sheila who has not been as warm and receptive to a reunion, but I am confident that with patience, she will come around eventually. The family has provided me with the medical information I need, as well as a family history that helps me get an idea of where I come from.

I still don't understand how she did it, but Julie was able to solve the case with almost no information to go on. She even approached my birth mother and talked her into answering her questions and setting the facts straight--something I never expected her to do. When all is said and done, I am super-happy and just want to thank everyone at SQA for working together as a team to help solve my mystery--you guys are the best!

(Written by Mica Burton on Cindy's behalf.)

Client ID# 222376
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